Confinement....

confinement period aka berpantang is a must for all preggy women...some said it's a miserable 40 days coz nama pun berpantang...so terlampau bnyk le pantang larangnyer....and soklan yg kita slalu dengar, "nanti bersalin katner??" and followed by "nnt berpantang katner??".....

never ever in my life occurs in my mind that my confinement period is without mak.....it's all mom-to-be wish that during their confinement, they will be taken care by their mom....never occur in my mind to bother bout confinement or to ask anything bout confinement from mak....coz all i noe is, during my confinement period, i will stay wif mak...and i noe, that's wut she's hoping for as well....dolu, k linda pantang mak jaga....yele k linda pun anak yatim piatu when she married my eldest brother....and for me, being da only daughter and da youngest who always clinging to her mother, mesti le berharap yg bile pantang mak sendiri yg akan jaga....and mak mn yg tak looking forward nak jaga anak sendiri masa pantang...sbb mak will attend to all my rengekan...hahaha..though aku dah besar....ppl who sees me wif mak will noe how manja i am wif her and how she manjakan aku...tp Allah maha mengetahui.....

dulu sblm kawen, mak penah sembang dgn Opah De, mak's auntie yg lebih kurang sebaya jerk dgn mak....dia ckp nnt nak beli iron bed...nak buat bertangas tuk aku....nak buat cam ikan panggang le...nak soh aku baring atas iron bed tuh, then kat bawah tuh nak letak le bara yg berempah...kekonon nak salai aku....huhuh....and i was looking forward for it....tp skang just imagination jele.....

mak, being da greatest mother has ever lived....she makes it a routine to make receiving blankets to all her grandchild.....that's wut she did to my 2 nieces....and unfortunately, her own daughter's son didn't get da chance to be wrapped wif his opah's receiving blanket....and mak will also make a complete set of tilam and bantal for her grandchild....and bukan rezeki anak aku gak tuk merasa tuh semua....xpe le sayang, Allah maha mengetahui...

and when ever i meet ppl, they will ask...."nnt kamu bersalin katner?"....i'll reply "dekat KL jerk...hospital pusrawi..dkt dgn rumah...jauh2 nnt takut tak sempat.." wif a huge grin on ma face...a very reasonable and strong answer....then they'll ask, "nnt pantang katne plak"....it was a question which i dun really hv da answer....mama, my mother-in-law has never offer me to pantang at Seremban....padahal, her 1st daughter-in-law pantang kat seremban...bersalin pun kat seremban...sanggup tuh dr subang rush to seremban masa pecah ketuban semata-mata nak bersalin kat seremban....at 1st, aku mcm kecik ati gak le sbb mama tak offer....then dia ade sembang ngan mr hubby, dia tanya aku pantang katner?? mr hubby said at my mother's sis-in-law in sri kembangan.....mama ckp, mama pun xle nak jaga aku sbb dia keje....

and aku pun tak sampai ati nak pantang kat seremban sbb mengenangkan mama keje....she's a maternity nurse...mmg really fit for my confinement...tp, bile pikir yg dia keje shift...timing x menentu....dgn papa pun no longer around....and to my surprise, dah le dia keje shift....kekadang balik kol 8 mlm ke....and she's da one yg kene prepare dinner plak....kalo dia keje during da weekend masuk tgh hari pun, b4 she goes to work dia plak yg masak tuk anak-anak dara dia yg padahal muda sethn jerk dr aku dgn yg bongsu dah darjah 6.....kesian dia...bile pikir she has to do all da house chores, from cooking and washing cloth....aku cam xsampai hati plak nak pantang kat umah mama.....kesian dgn dia...padahal dia ade jerk anak dara...muda sethn jerk dr aku...lg sorang tuh pun dah darjah 6 dah....xreti plak nak ringankan beban mak ko kan???

dulu memula preggy, K linda ajak aku pantang sesama ngan dia kat ipoh...yele, dedua anak yatim piatu kan...kitowang jaga satu sama lain le...dia ckp dia nak amik maid sepanjang confinement...then dpt plak offer dr Mak Uda...my father's in-law punyer sis-in-law....dia ajak pantang kat umah dia...tp kat JB le....pastuh, masa bln puasa hari tuh....acik, my mak anjang punyer maid (mak anjang is my mother's younger brother's wife) ajak aku pantang kat umah derang in seri kembangan....time tuh offer tuh cam tak serious jerk....xtau le ajak2 ayam ke hape...huhu....nnt bln 11 aku nak tanya mak anjang lagik skalik....raya hari tuh aku tanya maid dia ngan mak dia...derang cam ok jerk...mak anjang je aku blum kompemkan....dia nak ke jaga aku masa pantang nie....maybe xlama....3 weeks top...then balik le pantang sendirik....rumah derang pun kat sri kembangan jerk...so, mr hubby pun bole jerk nak ulang alik pegi opis dr ctu.....

yele, aku pun 1st time preggy kan...mmg pengalaman and knowledge totally zero...then K Linda bitau aku, pah (my father's mother) jahitkan 7 bengkung baby....owh so sweet...she said it's for me and k linda....she's very old and very weak....she's 80++ and to my surprise, she can make da time and effort regardless her weakness to made da bengkung bb for us....K linda ckp, pah kesian sbb both of us xde mak......and K linda pun ckp, dulu mak ade jahit bengkung utk k linda, so k linda bg kamu la ye.....at least i have something that was made by mak.....

so jaja, pantang le dgn mak ko selagi ade mak nie.....kalo dgn mak kita, nak ngengada ke, nak merengek ke...nak tanya pape pun senang...sbb she's ur mother...she knows u inside out....she was da one who took care of u till u can become a wonderful mother now....leha plak, import le mak ko ke Canada nnt....or balik le pantang kat Mesia....Beba, nak buat camne dah ko besalin kat Sabah itu hari....

thrust me, if i have mak, i'll call her every single day to ask her all about pregnancy....she's ur mother, so u won't feel ashamed or hesitated....i can just strip in front of her and ask her about all da changes on my body.....mak, it's hard for me to got through this life changing moment without u by my side....