24th July 2010....

it was a normal saturday morning...hubby is getting ready for work (yeah he's working on saturday now)...me, still in bed...huhu...it's weekend babe.....his hp ringing a few times...he's in a shower....once he's done, i told him bout all da missed calls....

so he return all da missed calls coz it was from Pak Uda (his uncle) and Pizal (his brother)...i can hear his conversation from da hall...then i heard "Laila ha Illallah"....dat's wut make me woke up....then he came into da bedroom and said to me "Pak uda ckp, papa meninggal"....i was like..."biar betul?!!"..."betul la...xkan Pak Uda nak tipu I kot."...this time i'm already standing..."bile meninggal? kenape?"...then mr hubby said "xtau...pak uda pun mcm xtau...cepat siap.."

kelam kabut aku mandi and kemas beg...and as usual, i have to chck wut did hubby packed for himself....i insist to drive back to seremban...one thing bout hubby, when he's driving, he can't really chat...especially when he has something on his mind like now....on our way, i asked mr hubby's to call his brother to find out more bout it...he can't really think under pressure...i sms my brothers to notify them..i sms sha and asked her favor to inform other frens....

once we're in seremban, fizal and K Linda (hubby's SIL) is already there...so i help K Linda kemas rumah...then only we find out da real story....papa (FIL) went to Medan da day before wif 2 other neighbors...he went there to settle on tour guide as he has a planning to open a travel agency once he retire....papa already had heart attack twice before....but last nite, he was attack again...and this time, takdir Allah da medical facilities in Medan is like Malaysia's before merdeka...they dun even have the electric shock...they just do da manual CPR...they dun even have freezer for their rumah mayat....so papa was place in a room temperature je....they are so daif....

family in-law decided to bring papa back to Malaysia...Alhamdulillah he went wif close frens...so the frens help all the arrangement....but they need RM7k to bring the jenazah back to Malaysia..and it was Saturday....so hubby, his brother and his sister keluar tuk mengumpul duit...how much can u withdraw from ATM pun?? so they have to withdraw from several banks...Alhamdulillah they manage to sent da money before the Malaysian Consulate in Indonesia close....the ETA of jenazah papa is the next morning.....just found out that abg, bancik and anjang is on da way to Seremban...then i asked them to come da next day....

the next day, jenazah arrived at around 2:00pm....it was an overwhelming feeling when i saw da van jenazah...me and hubby is still mourning on mak passed away, then not even a month after that, we were shocked by this news....semua org berkerumun dkt keranda coz they wanna see papa...i dunno wut they wanted to see...it's not like a show or present giving ceremony...and da stupidest thing was da van jenazah driver even said "haa..sape nak amik gamba keranda boleh la sblm saya bukak keranda nie" wut da fuck man???!!! none in any people's rational mind will say something as dumb as dat....and to my surprise, some one did took a photo...we can even hear da click sound....Ya Allah....kesian papa....when they open da keranda, i can't hold back my tears....all i can see was papa's cheerful face....da face that never stop smiling and never stop making jokes.....

i'm not sure weather is da culture or it's da people's consciousness...i didn't see anyone recite Yassin at all on Saturday...until our friends from TM arrive..(farouk, gigs, fathul and da other one i forgot his name)....they solat and then recite Yassin....i'm really thankful that they came....while hubby's uncles, aunties and cousins are at his Pak Long's house bz cooking for Tahlil that very nite....only me, K Linda, Baby (hubby's younger sister), mama (MIL) is at home....dah macam kenduri keraian plak sebok memasak....when mak passed away, someone told me not to serve anything ie foods or drinks to people coming until da jenazah dikebumikan....and even for tahlil, u dun have to cook beria sgt....u just served nasi goreng or mee goreng is more than just enough.....but it's different here....da food served during tahlil was so lavish dengan kari dagingnya, sambal petai la, masak lemak la..and yassin was not even placed at da hall for ppl to recite....i tried to find yassin, but i manage to get 2 only....i dun noe, maybe da culture here is different....

and on saturday nite, all of us sleep at da hall...they even switched off da light....not many people know, that roh org yg meninggal akan berada dirumahnya selama 3 hari...that's why we were advice to buat tahlil 3 days in a row....da reason being is, da roh want to stay and see how will his family members be without him....that's why ppl say, jgn berhenti mengaji selama 3 hari, kalau bole khatam satu quran...and dun switch off da lights...wut i can do is, just advice hubby wut to do and wut not to do.....

to my surprise, some ppl dun even know about iddah....if u dun know bout it, please google and ask ustaz or ustazah....and pity mama, she dun noe bout iddah....i was restless to noe that she didn't noe, and no one in da family even know...not even hubby's uncle inform mama bout iddah....when a women losses her husband, she is bound under iddah for 4 months and 2 days...during this iddah u can't:
1. memakai sebarang perhiasan emas atau perak
2. tidak boleh memakai wangi-wangian
3. tidak boleh berdandan atau bersolek
4. tidak boleh keluar rumah melainkan pergi bekerja atau jika tidak, ia akan memudaratkan keluarga...contoh jika balu tersebut tidak keluar rumah akan menyebabkan anak2 tidak makan...
5. tidak dibenarkan hadir kesebarang majlis keraian...
iddah is actually mentioned in Al-Quran....it does not came from Sunnah, sahabat rasulullah atau fatwa....
to my surprise, mama went all da way to papa's school to pack his stuff...she even went to banks to withdraw money, she went to pasar tani and to my suprise, hubby's brother even suggest to celebrate his wife's birthday at their uncle restaurant on Tuesday nite..
Ya Allah, it will be my sin if i didn't inform bout iddah to them....then on Tuesday, when all of them went out to Pejabat pendaftaran including mama, i called hubby...i told him bout iddah...me myself wasn't sure bout it, so we google....that very evening, i heard hubby talk to mama bout this....and Alhamdulillah mama understood...

papa passed away was really a surprise to everyone...da last time i saw him was during mak's passed away....he came all da way from Seremban by bus....all da ppl that came says he's a joyful and bubbly person....no one sees it coming....all da memory i have on him was his joke, his laugh and his smile...for me he's very cute and when ever i think of him, it will make me smile....baru berniat nak menumpang kasih pada bapak mentua, tp Allah maha mengasihi dia....my child won't have any idea how it's like to have a grandpa....

before marriage, we have this deal where every raya we would go back to Ipoh as mak is alone and she only has me as a daughter.....then when mak passed away, this year i will still celebrate raya in Ipoh coz we wanted to meet all our relatives...but Allah knows better....nampaknya raya thn nie di seremban la.....2 losses in not even a month....Ya Allah, agak berat dugaan yang Kau turunkan kepada kami suami isteri.....berilah kami kekuatan dan kesabaran untuk menghadapi segala dugaan ini....sesungguhnya Engkau maha mengetahui.....